To positively impact the lives of women by providing the tools and knowledge to think and respond differently, reduce suffering and increase joy, and become their true authentic self.
Looking in from the outside, no one would have guessed that I was suffering. I wasn’t being physically or mentally abused. I had a successful career, knew all the right people, and was well liked. I gave speeches and went to parties. I was a workaholic in business and was trying to be in the best social circles. I was obsessed with being relevant. Significance was my God and I did everything I could to feel important.
I grew up in a small town in Northern California, the child of self-absorbed parents determined to make their mark. Although they were in my life, they weren’t “present.” My mother was especially driven. Looking back I wish my parents had given me stronger values, had understood that loving me meant they sometimes needed to put me in my place. But ours was not a family to have those kinds of conversations and I truly believe they were doing the best they could. So I learned by example.
Everything I did after graduation was about seeking power and status until one day my life shattered and I realized I was miserable. I was suffering; suffering from a condition of my own creation. I was full of discontent, anxiety, fear, worry, and shame. A trio of rapid events forced me to stop and take a real look at my life. First my mother was diagnosed with dementia. Then I had to sever ties with my sister who was in an abusive relationship. The final straw was my grandmother dying from cancer. The stress was incredible. I couldn’t sleep. I was overweight. There was no peace. My mom was a living sacrifice for my awakening.
After my daughter was born in 2003, I knew something had to change. I threw myself into searching for answers, the same way I had thrown myself into my work. I started with the physical, getting my weight under control. Once my body was healthy I had the energy to do the more demanding work of becoming my authentic self. I spent fifteen years doing psychology research, attending conferences, and reading books on personal growth and development. But it wasn’t until I let my walls down and let God in that I truly started to find peace and joy.
Now I have purpose and meaning. I live each day with gratitude. The feeling I had years ago of having a calling has been revealed. He has asked me to help other women who might be on the same journey: women who have created their own silent internal suffering. He has given me a Big Voice. Through His guidance I have translated lessons and tools from other amazing writers, speakers, and pastors for you for your own awakening. He has shown me a path that will bring you joy, excitement, and the certainty that your life is truly guided and divine. I invite you to come walk this path with me.
It takes courage to find your Big Voice and become completely authentic and purpose driven. Courage will lead you to become your self.
We have to be determined to seek out our purpose and stand up to the suffering this world is causing us. Determination will lead you to stand up for own desires and impact the lives of others.
We recognize that without discipline life and emotions will control our time and energy leaving us to suffer. Disclipline will keep you grounded in the action necessary to realize your goals and vision.
Love is the most important priority…we must first love ourselves so that we can remain open-hearted and generous with our love. Love will set you free from any self-suffering you cause yourself.
We must maintain inner peace to rise up to whatever our calling is. Peace will bring you joy and love for yourself and others.
We must achieve a balance between physical and emotional health before we fight other people’s battles or prioritize other people’s needs. Harmony will ensure that you stay strong, courageous and armed to handle whatever life brings you.
Grow your voice.
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