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Are You Fighting Other People’s Battles?

Women are by nature nurturers. We find ourselves constantly taking care of other people. But how far is too far? Does our nurturing nature hold us back from living an extraordinary life? To avoid burnout and move forward on achieving our own goals we must take time for ourselves and ask some critical questions.

First, are you clear on your life vision, priorities, and goals? If not, it is easy to start helping other people with theirs and neglect ourselves. We need individual goals so we can feel joy as we progress towards them. Many of us are so worried about our company, partners, or kids that we don’t schedule any time for ourselves. Years go by quickly, resentments can build subconsciously, and before you know it you’ll be wondering, when is it my turn?

Second, do you believe it is your responsibility to solve problems for other people? Many parents, siblings, and partners possess the belief we can shield or minimize others from hurt, stress, or pain. We take on the role of protector, which is much different than being a nurturer. If you are aiming to control anyone or anything, you will become empty quickly.  People around you cannot grow when you are continually stepping in. Strive to let go of the belief that you can save anyone or shield them. Your role must shift from fighting other people’s battles to love and support as they journey through a trying experience. Setting boundaries will help you do this.

Third, do you spend any time taking care of yourself? Analyze how much you pour into yourself on a daily basis. Be honest. We have a long list of how we care for others but do you have a list for you? Our cup should be overflowing for others rather than empty.

To live an extraordinary life, you must prioritize your emotional and physical well-being above others. It may seem impossible, but you will have so much more energy if you do it.  You must let go of the idea that you are responsible for anyone else’s happiness and become more detached. Your role is to nurture others not take on their battles. You will burn out if you do, and burnout is a primary reason why over 20% of women turn to psychiatric meds for help. I pray you will decide to put yourself first and trust everyone will get more of you when you do.

Kelly Resendez
Kelly Resendez
EVP of Talent Acquisition and Development at Loanpal Founder/Speaker/Writer at FTSS and Big Voices

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