As I write this, we are in the midst of the most prolonged pandemic crisis we have seen in my lifetime. The swine flu, at least to date, affected more people than the Coronavirus but was less deadly. We are now seeing social distancing become the norm, and many places are on lockdown. Our economy is suffering, and many people are living in fear and anxiety. 

Those of us fully in flow, who have also surrendered to just how good God is, are navigating this well. We are connecting more with leaders who also want to help others through this. We are supporting others more than ever before. The common belief in personal growth and development that life happens for you has really grounded me to seek the silver lining. My company has responded in a swift and positive way, preparing to get our 500+ employees set up to work from home. We have been more innovative and resourceful. We have also been more compassionate and empathetic.

For any of you not living in flow right now, there are several things you can do so immediately. 

First, become aware you are not your thoughts. You can choose the ones that you allow to affect your daily life. 

Second, you need to re-write your vision out for this season of how you want to feel. Then anytime you have thoughts in opposition to it you simply release them rather than continuously think about them. 

Third, you have to learn how to focus on what is satisfactory in your life. I would recommend making a list of what is working well and a list of what is not working well. 

As you navigate your day, only focus on the list of what is working. To stay in flow, you must master this practice. For me, I have one major area out of alignment that was completely hijacked recently, that I am choosing not to focus on until I am stronger.

The last thing you need to do is check your self-worth. Uncertainty can create edges, and this is a great time to look at this. I do this by checking my worthiness formula just to see if I have anything left that needs to be removed. 

So how does our worthiness formula become affected when events like this happen? 

First, let me explain what our worthiness formula is. Think of it as your “Am I enough meter?” that lives silently below your consciousness level. Every day, there are millions of people feeling like they are not enough in many areas of their lives because their worthiness formula has too many variables tied to it. 

Therefore, we want to adopt a new worthiness formula that is solely based on our existence and nothing externally. Your worthiness is no longer tied to how you look, what you accomplish, or, more importantly, how others feel. 

With the wrong worthiness formula, if your income or career has been affected, you can easily fall into a “why me?” mentality. You can easily feel like it is happening to you. Your ego may start producing fear and doubt because you experienced other setbacks or things similar to this in the past, and you were hurt emotionally or financially by them. It can be a tricky time to stay in your highest self and not allow thoughts to bring you down. Feeling worthy of an abundance in spite of what is going on around you will allow you to experience this pandemic with more optimism.

At times like this, I ask myself one question over and over, so I don’t get stuck… “Is there a decision I need to make right now?” This takes me to a powerful state.  If there is not a decision I have to make right now, then all I can do is go back to gratitude and continue to take action towards my vision. We can get hijacked by fear and doubt so quickly and become immobile. Remember, these are just thoughts with which we fuel the wrong emotions. We must see them as separate because we know everything is always working out okay for us, and, if it is not, we need to honestly assess what resistance we put up ourselves. 

I suggest we all maintain enough factual knowledge to make good decisions for ourselves. It’s time for us to find gratitude and opportunities to improve in any way we can; to appreciate everything we have and even the little things we took for granted like toilet paper or food. 

We can use this trying time to test our worthiness formula. You should feel so abundant and worthy of greater things to come. This season should only be used as a contrast for your vision. A simple shoulder shrug of “how can I appreciate dining out more, attending events, or having freedom to choose what I do more in the future?” 

This season in business might teach you to prepare for storms; to maintain higher liquidity; to always be innovating and diversifying. Being in the mortgage and real estate industries, this has been a common lesson. We have had the highest highs and the lowest lows. It has taught me to always view revenue over a five-year span versus what it is today. Although we celebrate good seasons, we are always prepared for a bad one. 

There are so many lessons to be learned in this pandemic if we remain mindful of growth and keenly aware. Be armed by increasing self-care, and put in more goodness from books, podcasts, documentaries, or influences than you are from negative news. If you’re an empath, you need to level-up your skills on holding your energy – there are lots of vampires out there who will try and steal your joy. 

I will keep you and your families in my thoughts and prayers. May you have more patience, compassion, resilience, and strength! May you see this as a catalyst for even more yumminess in your life and remove the edges you didn’t even know were there!

Warm regards,

Kelly Resendez